The Raft

Today I got to thinking about marriage. Different people love each other differently, respect each other differently, communicate with each other differently. Each happy marriage has a happy husband and a happy wife - without those 2, it's not a happy marriage - and if the marriage is happy, then the people in it feel that they are doing things the right way.

Then why are there so many ways to be happy? If everyone is right, what's wrong? That's a rhetorical question.

But here is my real question, or point to ponder - depending on what sort of reader you are - a responder or a thinker...

What do you do to make your marriage a success?
How do you show your spouse that they are still
and always will be the center of your world?
Do you put your wife or husband first? Above your children?
Do you enjoy each other, laugh with each other, spend time together?
Do you respect your spouse's time? Space? Feelings?

This is really just food for thought.
I spent my day with 2 girlfriends and our kids at the beach.
Our husbands were working.

I never feel like I show my appreciation enough to Jay. I never feel like he truly understands how much I love my life, and how much I know how hard he works and how stressed out he gets while I am pretty much having a grand ole time. And truly, I do have a great time. Every day.

Everyone has rough days, everyone can say that have had a bad week, same goes for me. But overall - I wouldn't trade my life for any one of yours.

I don't work.
I don't have a job.
I don't have to get up and go and answer to anyone or do anything that I don't want to do.

This is all true. I am the luckiest woman in the world. And I have my husband, the love of my life, my very best friend and very easily - my favorite person in the world - to thank for that.

So, go tell your spouse what you really think of them. Tell them that you're happy to be with them. Tell them that they make you happy - but tell them how, why and what they are that makes you so happy.
Everyone needs to hear it. Especially in a marriage. A marriage can so easily get lost in the shuffle of the day to day.
So try to remember why you got married in the first place.

So many of my friends have such great marriages. They love their husbands (and vice versa) so much. We share in the joys of our blessings. We laugh at the silliness, the craziness, the aggrivations and the stresses.
Because what we have - the bottom line of it all - is great love and admiration for our husbands.