Today I drove around with an old lady dog in my backseat. She was soaking wet and running, terrified, from thunder and into roads that while I can't call them a "major intersection", I can say that for around here, it's dangerous territory. So, what choice did I have but to pick her up and let her sleep soundly in my backseat while I drove around for 40 minutes looking for any sign of someone frantically searching for their terrified, lost dog?!
And for what reason would I be driving around on this particular day, when this particular storm and this particular dog happened to cross my path, while my kids were at camp (for their first time ever, away from me for a whole day - we can discuss the hole in my heart later)? For what reason would this sweet, greying, frightened and lovely little girly dog run in front of my car while it's raining so hard I was trying to decide if it was just huge drops or actual hail? Her tail was between her legs, her thick, groomed wolf-like coat was soaked but her eyes looked peaceful and her body language asked for help.
So, I got out of the car. And I talked to her. And I opened by back door. And she hopped in.
At first, she stood and looked nervous. And while I am absolutely an animal lover, I am also an animal respecter - and with that comes a healthy dose of fear - and my fear of being bit kept me from going right at her to check her collar or pet her head.
I let her relax. I stopped home and checked on my own 'fraidy-dogs, got some water and a few treaties and went back to my little stray.
She was not hungry or thirsty.
She was tired. She laid down. She slept so hard I could hear her breathing. I thought about bringing her home and calling it a day.
But instead I drove on. And let her sleep.
And then I turned down a random cu-de-sac, all the while talking sweetly with my new girly dog. And I said to her "you never know why things happen the way they do, you never know why you make a turn where you would not normally turn" and so I turned. In that cul-de-sac I decided she was confortable enough for me to open the back door and pet her and check her collar.
No tags.
I think I already knew I was not actually going to take her to the Animal Control Office in town. First of all, they didn't answer the phone (or call me back promptly as their vm promised), so I knew they weren't there and confirming that wasn't worth the ride to me. Secondly, I called! I did my part. I was not going to "surrender" this sweet girl to the authorities in hopes that some uniformed guard might care enough to find her a home. I would be her home!! She was sweet!!
As I was checking her tags, a car pulled out of it's driveway and up next to me. I was looking for people looking for their dog - because everyone else was inside watching the storm, not standing outside in it. But this woman happened to pull out as I was checking out my lost girl.
She said hello and introduced herself kindly, I said "I found a dog!" She got out of the car and with the excitement of a 7 year old said "Can I See?!?!"
She did not recognize her but made no motions to leave me in her neighborhood, scratching my head.
At this point, I knew I could not let the dog back out of my car to find her way. But I also knew I could not squeeze my 2 small, excitable kids into the back seat with her. She seemed lovely and relatively clean, but who knows.
But I didn't know what
to do.
Enter Debbie. My new best friend.
When I explained that I did not want to give the dog to animal control ("she's so cute!") but I also didn't want to lock her in my garage as the storm that she seemed to be running from raged on all around her, and I couldn't put her in my house with my 2 dogs who were also foaming at the mouth in the humidity and thunder and I couldn't keep driving around with her because I had to pick up my kids, Debbie said - without any hesitation at all and much to my shock and delight - "I'll take the dog!"
Here is where I have to tell you that Debbie was a striking red head - friendly, freckly, pretty and
red. And yet, none of my usual red-head-flags shot up. She seemed so genuinely kind and concerned. Almost like she had been waiting for a new dog to show up. She had a blanket for the seat in her car and a leash!
("
you never know")
So, Debbie took the dog, I went home to my own dogs and took stock of my day.
In the morning, I dropped Abby off at school for her first ever, long awaited, day at camp. As a stay-at-home-mom and beach-bum, I have never seen the need for summer camp. We hang out in the summer. We go to the shore, we go to the lake and we have a pool. But this year has proven more challenging than years past.
It's not that my kids are super-spoiled (they are, admittedly, regular-spoiled). It's not that they're bratty. But, at nearly-5 and 6-going-on-16 they are, without a doubt, on each other's nerves. And every day, with me, they are getting bored. They are without structure, and they are bored. They need more than what I am giving them. Next year I will plan better.
So, this week they went to camp for a day. I had meetings and camp is more fun and cheaper than a babysitter.
Abby went in the morning, lunch and 2 snacks packed, ready to rock. I kissed her goodbye and walked away.
I felt like my heart was going to fall on the hallway floor.
Amazing what absence can do for the fonder...
What the
hell am I going to do when school starts?
From there we stopped at Papa's house to drop off Nana's sunglasses that she left at our place. A nice visit with Papa and the pooch. He gave Wyatt a new hat - a red one to match the red shorts and red t-shirt he chose for his day. The hat says "Stolichnya".
After that I dropped Wyatt off at his friend's house (and I really felt my loneliness kick in). They had about an hour to play before lunchtime and then they, too, were off to camp. We had decided (three of us, moms of 3 Kindergarten boys) that a half day would be enough for them at this point so they had a playdate and lunch first.
From playdate drop-off I went back to school to meet with the 2 principals of the 2 elementary schools with my PTA Co-Prez, CR. We met and chatted and did our agenda and political deeds. We laid out our meetings for the year, discussed costs and concerns and, I hope, are done with that.
The one thing I do not want, with this new role of PTA Co-P, is to be in meetings, in cahoots, in
bed with administration.
Don't misunderstand me, I
adore our principals - and our superintendant. I like & respect them as women and administrators. I consider myself - and our town - pretty lucky to have 2 female principals and a female superintendant that are moms and teachers and all around career women, but are also fearless and awesome and, to be honest, gorgeous. LOVE that.
But, as PTA prez, I want to be neutral. I don't want my personal opinions to play a role. I want to focus on the kids, their benefits, the teachers, their benefits and the overall community feel - the pluses, the extras, the greatness that the PTA can give to a community.
Not to be dictated by the governing bodies, only to be dictated by need, want and appreciation.
From PTA I went to the Country Club.
I finalized the menu for the Dinner-Dance I am planning as a fund-raiser for the local Food Pantry. I can honestly say "I" here because so far, it's all me. I will need help - I do! But I haven't found it yet so, so far, I'm pretty freakin proud of me.
We finalized the menu. Cash bar with Beef & Fish buffet dinner, appetizer stations, salads, pastas, desserts - the whole nine - it's gonna be awesome. DJ. Photographer.
I am so flippin excited.
Now, onto the marketing. That part is the key part because if I mess it up, or even if I don't maximize it - my planning, my whole idea - will fail.
I have to sell 120 tickets.
How?
From the Club I went to town. I had a few things for sale in the Consignment shop. It seems like Abby was the last girl born. We ran out of girls. Every baby born after Abby had a penis. So, I ran out of good things to do with her better clothes.
I am a huge charity giver. But sometimes - it's just too good!! I want to see it move on, or I want to get something back for it.
Ralph Lauren and Gap and Janie & Jack! I want to see a return on my investment!!
So, I went to consign. Almost 3 months ago.
And so, in parting with a shopping bag full of stuff, I waited and waited.
And I made 20 bucks.
I feel dirty.
I'll just pass it on from now on. If it's really worth it, I'll eBay it. Consignment is not for me.
From town I went to ManchVegas. Birthday party next week. Both kids are invited. Need gifts.
I went quick, one store.
Headed home as the skies got dark. And so we come back to the doggie in the street in the pouring rain...
Debbie took the doggie from me and I felt good about it. I felt sad because in that hour or so, I had gotten attached, but I felt good because we exchanged numbers and I knew that if she didn't find her home, she was going to keep her. I knew it.
So, I felt good.
About 3 hours later, she called me. She found her home. Her name was Dinah and she was home.
Life has a funny way of finding it's way.
And, to add to this story, it turns out - Debbie is BFF's with my next door neighbor. Small, small world.
